This evening is possibly the last time my Mum will see my sister and it’s also the last time I will see her for some years too. Jo has been over from Australia for seven weeks now, initially flying here when Mum was so unwell after her recent accident. We thought then that she might not make it. She is recovering but is far from well. I said my farewell earlier and know that it’s going to be much, much harder for my Mum to say goodbye. I had Jo here to stay with me a couple of times this trip, but mostly, she has been spending valuable and quality time, staying with my elderly Mum. They have been almost constant companions during that seven weeks.
I’m very concerned about Mum as she has rather got used to my sister being around and is going to miss her terribly. I don’t know how my Mum is going to adjust to the change. She has become used to being with someone as opposed to being on her own. I know she is scared at the prospect of living alone again, and I can’t say I blame her, living in that big, old, rundown house as she does with not even a friend or neighbour nearby who could pop in from time to time. She is two hours away from me, by train so I’m not able to do that either, as much as I would love to. However, I’m in the process of looking at finding some care and companionship for her although I know she will be reluctant to accept help, having always been such an independent lady.
Jo has a very long journey ahead of her, 27 hours including a brief stopover in Dubai for the plane to refuel. Her family, back in Australia have missed her. She has her husband and two grown children waiting for her to return. She is leaving our rather mild but wet summer and heading back to an icy winter. Once she gets back, we will have to get used to the time difference again – Australia being ahead of us by quite a considerable number of hours. She always has worse jetlag flying back home than she does coming here.
The flight leaves tonight, and I wish I were able to travel to the airport with Jo to see her off. I’m so pleased my youngest sister can go instead as Mum isn’t well enough to go to the airport either. Families can be living miles or kilometres apart and yet remain so emotionally close. We all talk on the phone frequently, and I’m going to encourage our family to start using Skype. I already have it downloaded on my laptop, and I am hoping that both Mum and Jo will acquaint themselves with it too as they are both fairly staunch technophobes.
It’s 9 pm here, and as I look up into the sky and see the golden sun just going down over the rooftops, I am aware that very soon, my sister will be flying into that orange sky and will be on her journey to her home on the other side of the globe. I’m going to miss her.
Farewell and Bon Voyage, my precious sister. You will be in my thoughts and my prayers tonight as you travel the 10,000 miles between our respective parts of the world. I love you so very much.
That’s very tough. I hope she has a safe journey home. Goodbyes can be so emotional. Xxx hugs ellie
Thank you, Carol anne, and especially for the hugs – I am having a really difficult day today. Hugs xxx
May your sister’s travels be safe, and may you find a way to stay close even though miles separate you. *more hugs*
Thank you so much, Cathleen. We stay in touch by phone and email but of course, it’s just not the same as being together. I am feeling sad today xxx
I have tremendous sympathy for your, your mother’s and your sisters’ situation, Ellie. My family are also strung out across the world. My parents, my brother and I all live in different countries and it’s expensive and difficult to meet face to face. Every time I walk out my mother and father’s front door, there are always tears as I wonder whether or not we will ever have the chance to be together in the same place again. Skype has helped to some extent since we can at least have nice long electronic chats every week, but living so far apart, though sadly unavoidable, is still a heartbreakingly painful thing.
Thank you, Bun. I appreciate your empathy and am sorry you are in the same situation. It is so hard to say goodbye to someone so close, not knowing if you will see them again. You are right – it is painful and today, my heart is breaking as is my mum’s. I am so sad today x 😥
I can understand how you and your mother felt, Ellie. It’s always great to see family members again, but it just makes the eventual separation even harder.
Incidentally, I’m sorry this reply is so late. Problems at work kept me away from blogging for the last couple of days.
Thanks, Bun. Hope you got your problems at work sorted out a bit.
Yep, no problem now. I’m gradually catching up on replying to comments and reading posts. 🙂