Well….today is the last day that my sister will be here with us in England. She leaves my mum’s house at 1.30pm today, which is just over an hour from while I am writing this (although by the time I’ve finished this post, she will have gone). Her 28 hour flight takes off at 5.50pm, after which I shan’t see her for another 3-4 years :(( She phoned me this morning to say goodbye which is always hard. I so wish I could go to the airport with her and wave her off properly but I couldn’t manage the journey. Fortunately, my younger sister is going with her so she won’t be on her own. It’s always hard to let her go – we are such close sisters and I find missing her hard. Nevertheless, her life is out there in Australia and her husband and two almost grown-up children have missed her a lot while she’s been here so will be glad to have her home again.
As we were growing up, we had our fair share of squabbles and ‘cat fights’ but never really fell out seriously nor hurt each other. She wasn’t abused by my father and finds it difficult to accept what I have said as being the truth. So, we’ve agreed to disagree on that one although it does hurt me to know that I don’t have her support. She got on with my dad really quite well and definitely without being abused. In fact, we ended up calling her “Daddy’s blue-eyed little girl”, which she was literally with her straight blond hair and beautiful blue eyes (taking after him), whereas I took after my mum with my common brown hair and brown eyes. But there was never any competition between us and I bore and bear no grudge that it was me who was the only child in our family who was abused.
Now she lives literally on the other side of the planet, the main differences between us are the obvious huge number of miles of land and sea between us and totally opposite time clocks and of course weather. Also she has two well-behaved teenagers who I hope to meet one day. I chat to them on the phone once in a while. My children are a ‘different kettle of fish’ altogether and hardly bear even mentioning, I am so angry with them because of how they treat me.
Well….it’s now 6.30pm, my time and she will be up in the air among the white and fluffy clouds and will soon be watching the sun go down, becoming just and orange glow.
The flight is with a ‘decent’ airline so the long journey (with two stopovers) shouldn’t be too unbearable although of course she will arrive home totally exhausted and it takes her days to recover from the jet-lag. Her family will be at the other end to greet as she gets off the plane and she will be happy to see them.
Farewell, my beloved sister. It was wonderful to be with you again and share an enormous hug. I’ll miss you so much but know that very soon we will be chatting on the phone as if we lived in the same street as the other! I love you so very much.
Essentially Ellie 
Three sisters and you were the only one who was abused? That seems odd. I’m sorry you two live so far apart 😦 hugs take care of yourself
Why is that odd? It’s quite common for one child (girl or boy) to be the ‘scapegoat’ or more appropriately, the victim within a family. I was always the quiet one who wouldn’t speak out or answer back and was groomed from a very early age. It seems a strange question to ask.
I do miss my sister a lot when she goes home. I am trying to talk her into getting Skype so that we’ll be able to see each other plus we won’t have such high phone bills! Hugs, Ellie xxx
Sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable at all. It’s just that rapists are very rarely one-victim perpetrators. They have their own mental illness to contend with, and it typically plays out one victim after another. Of course there are exceptions, and parental abuse is a bit different, especially with scapegoating involved. Xxx
I’m sorry that the visit has already ended, but glad that you had some wonderful times with her. Although you hold differences in understanding regarding the abuse, at least it hasn’t ruined your relationship with her.
hugs to you Ellie -and treasure the time you did have with her.
Thanks, Pat. I am blessed to have her as a sister and it was so lovely see. We are very close despite the distance between us and hopefully she will be able to come back again in a few years time. Hugs too, Pat xxx